Updated: Jan 23
Weddings are expensive, and the cost of a wedding photographer in Connecticut is nothing to sneeze at! We all start off having these dreams of our perfect wedding day and then we start getting quotes back on what that dream is going to cost us and suddenly eloping is starting to look really good. Most of us end up compromising on our perfect dream wedding and finding a more cost-effective way to get what we want, but there are some money-saving tips out there regarding photography that I think are just bad advice and I want to address them.
1. "Don't use the 'W' word"
This piece of advice is quickly becoming a thorn in the wedding industry's side. I don't know who thought of it first but it's bad advice and I'm going to tell you why when it comes to hiring your wedding photographer.
Professional wedding photographers take their jobs really seriously because what we do is hella stressful on the mind and body and can be emotionally invigorating and exhausting simultaneously. To be a wedding photographer takes a special kind of human who loves self-abuse, frankly, but who also is always on point for you. We do not charge more for weddings "just because" (in fact, my non-wedding party rate is higher because I don't like doing them). When you approach someone about being your photographer but purposely avoid using the word wedding and book them for some other kind of session or party, it's a huge betrayal of trust. Someone who was previously 100% on your team now has a reason to doubt your integrity and the value you place on them and their work, which is not a good feeling and could affect the outcome or performance of their work for the rest of the event (if they stay, more on that in a sec.)
Another reason to not lie about the fact that it's a wedding is that photographers have different gear set-ups for different sessions and events. If you book me for a wedding, I am making sure that my long-range zoom lens (and the back-up version in case of malfunction), are in my bag because that is my go-to ceremony lens so that I'm not being intrusive. If you book me for a cocktail party with no formal speeches or ceremonies I'm leaving both those lenses at home because I don't anticipate needing them for anything in a crowded party room.
Many photographers who this has happened to are making a stand when they show up to events that were booked as "family sessions" or "reunion parties" and surprise! there's a wedding ceremony. They are refusing to continue photographing until they are paid their wedding rates on the spot in cash or are just leaving the event altogether. And the photographers who choose to leave are contractually within their rights to with no obligation to return the money paid to them since the client breached the contract by hosting an event for coverage that was not disclosed to the photographer.
Bottom Line: Your wedding photographer is in charge of some of the most precious memories you'll make, so you should be honest and build that relationship with trust.
2. "Hire a Student or a Newbie."
This one always makes me cringe when I see it written in wedding advice forums, mostly for the data safety reasons I talk about in this post. In my opinion, nobody should be taking paying clients until they're completely educated on a safe data strategy and are able to enact one. But the other reason I get a little squirrely when this advice is given is because I remember what I was like my first few weddings as an assistant to a more experienced photographer. I had no idea what was going on, I wasn't confident enough to run the day the way it needed to be run, and I hadn't fully invested in the gear required to adequately photograph a wedding. The images I returned on some of those weddings were HORRIBLE.
And you'll see that time and time again in groups where someone posts about how they hired someone for a really great deal because they were new and now they have awful photos that they hate, or that they're upset because the photographer missed photos they had asked for because they were so disorganized or flustered. It takes a while to learn how to manage a wedding day with confidence and be able to adapt as an artist in all the varying situations we get thrown into.
Because your wedding photos are the tangible memories of the day, you should budget to have them in the care of a true professional.
3. "Hire them for less time."
Okay, so this isn't necessarily bad advice but lately I have seen a lot of couples in forums and direct inquiries stating that they only need 1-2 hours of wedding day coverage. I've got enough experience to be able to say that no wedding photographer is ever on site for just 1 hour, and very few elopements can even be accomplished in 2 hours of coverage. I personally have a base package for up to 4 hours and someone can use all four or not, it's up to them. There's a difference between booking more coverage than you need and booking too few hours for all you want covered.
As part of my consultation process, I talk with all my couples about what their photography priorities are and what kind of timeline those priorities require. If they don't want preparation images, cool; they don't need 8 hours of coverage and I'm not going to make them book me for that. But if they want all aspects of their day covered that's not going to happen in 5-6 hours of coverage, either. Your day only happens once and you should definitely enjoy it in as stress-free a way as possible. So take the advice from your photographer and/or planner regarding how much time you should set aside for each part of the day you want photographed and work that coverage into your budget.
I've never had a couple say they regret booking too much time with me, but I have had couples say they wish they had booked more time before their wedding instead of altering the timeline ad hoc on the day.
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